Eric Holder calls us out as Cowards

I was stopped in my tracks on how accurate a description of race conversation Eric Holder hit upon at his February 18, 2009 speech. (The link above only covers a 4 minute piece of it. )
I am fortunate that my family does not allow me to be a coward, but I also know the timidness that floods me when I expect a conversation or connection is coming. It is not fear as in "oh no they will think I'm a racist" or "oh no someone will hurt my family". It is closer to a reluctant dread. It is knowing I don't have the language or the time to get to a real conversation.
During our adoption, we were asked "How can you find opportunities to be a minority?". This vague advice, much like the WWJD pins, rings in my head when I want to be a coward.
And for full disclosure, my opportunities to be "brave" have all been pretty amazing. Hanging out at the Cheesecake Factory with very cool, smart women (Mocha Moms) or recently attending a friendly, supportive African American church (St John's Missionary Baptist).
So thank you Eric Holder for your reminder and thank you Jonathan for the motivation and thank you who have or will help us on our way!
Ginny